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I think the "no children"

lori carlson — Mon, 10 Mar 2008 14:45:37 -0500

I think the "no children" rule is perfectly fine. It's your day. Other people have to realize it's not about them!

There were kids at our wedding, which was at a smallish mansion, and it got a little crazy at times, though to the parents' credit, they stayed relatively well-behaved.

But I completely understand why kids might not be invited to a wedding. Not only is it chaotic for the adults, it sure isn't much fun for the kids, either. What kid wants to spend more than half a Saturday sitting in church or some other location, having to be quiet, then stand in a long receiving line with his or her parents, then be forced to eat some variety of dry catered chicken, then be repeatedly hollered at by adults to "behave"? Sure, the dance is fun, but that's a lot of behaving to do just to get to the fun part!

Oh Ruth Anne, the thought of

Mollee Francisco — Thu, 06 Mar 2008 12:41:42 -0600

Oh Ruth Anne, the thought of that "no felons" bit on the invititation cracks me up.
(Mollee Francisco is a staff writer for the Chaska Herald. She can be reached at mfrancisco@swpub.com.)

I'm all for excluding

Ruth Anne Maddox — Thu, 06 Mar 2008 11:43:55 -0600

I'm all for excluding children at weddings. It's just common sense -- and for the parents who are offended, I ask, "Would you expect me to come to your child's slumber party if my child was invited and my name wasn't on the invitation?" Both events present an awkwardness when mixed.

For my first wedding, I specified "No Children" and one of the cousins of my former husband declared that she would not come if she couldn't bring her toddler daughter.

After all the hubbub, I honestly don't remember whether she and her husband and their child were there.

I do, however, remember that their teenage son was there with his uncle (the upset cousin's brother) and that I made a point of telling the bartender at the open bar that this particular young man (as well as any other underage guests) was NOT allowed to have any alcohol as he was then awaiting sentencing in the drunken driving death of a friend who was in his vehicle when he crashed it.

Didn't stop the uncle from carting pitchers of beer to the table to share. A cash bar probably would have prevented that -- and maybe a "No Felons" specification on the invitation ;-)